Saturday, July 30, 2011

Getting Personal

On a cold, snowy day in February of 2010, all I knew as true for four and a-half years was confirmed. As I sat in the examining room taking in every last thing she told me, I knew with everything in me that my child was truly a miracle. “After all I’ve seen, your son should honestly not be here today. That you were able to carry him to term is a miracle in itself. He is, by all definition of the word, a miracle.”

For six years, I have been blessed by this miracle’s presence - waking each day to his beautiful smile and “I love you, Mommy”…lying down each night to go to sleep with his little arms wrapped around my neck and “I love you, Mommy”…midday hugs, play breaks and “I love you, Mommy”. He and I have a special relationship. The only child of a single mom - a bond that really is much different than any other. We did everything together, went everywhere together, and never ventured from the other for too long. My little shadow, my welcome distraction. Just me and him against the world.

I have always been the one to be there for my little man no matter what the situation. When he was jaundiced and needed to be awakened every two hours all through the night, I was the one rocking him and feeding him. When he was up all night sick from his immunizations, I was the one who held him and walked with him. When he was terribly sick and hospitalized, I was the one lying next to him in the bed holding his hand, rubbing his forehead, singing him songs. When he was struck in the face with a golf club and his nose was broken, I was the one who rushed him to the emergency room and never left his side. First day of preschool, first day of kindergarten, school programs, carnivals, parties and field trips…I was always there. I did not try to terminate my parental rights three times simply because I hated the other parent and did not want the financial responsibility. I held on with everything I had and fought for my son’s right to see the other parent to foster a solid, healthy relationship even when that other parent missed visit upon visit upon visit. I put my child first and made him a priority when the other parent was not willing to do so. Isn’t that what parents are supposed to do?

Because that other parent’s hatred toward me has escalated and his obsession with revenge is his priority, our world has been turned upside down. Individuals who have no stake in my child’s life are now calling the shots. Men who know nothing about my child…his wants, his needs, his worries, his concerns, his problems…are making all the decisions. My child means nothing to these individuals yet they are the ones in charge. It never should have gotten to this point. I was willing to do what was best for my son whether it was what I wanted or not. My wants, my needs did not matter. My child’s did.

I am angry, frustrated, infuriated and hurt. I am worried, concerned, fearful and tired. I continue to hold on to all I can now – HOPE. I no longer have faith as faith is being certain of something we do not see. There is no certainty for me. I know that there will be a lesson to come from all of this…I am curious as to just what that lesson will be. In the meantime, I will continue my fight and be strong for my son – My Miracle!

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

Monster Trap

Bless his pointed little head!

I found this Hershey Kiss glued to my bed frame this morning.  When I asked Logan what it was, he simply replied, "It's a monster trap mommy.  If the monsters come to get me in the middle of the night, they will see the candy and eat it and go away!"

More than once I find myself saying ..."If life were only that easy!"

Friday, April 8, 2011

Oh The Things Kids Say

I am so proud of my little man.  I attended his "Open House" last night (in lieu of conferences this trimester) and WoW - what progress he's made!  I am simply amazed at his abilities.  He's come so far.

And I MUST share a special moment...a moment that only a mother can appreciate (well, maybe not so much...I actually wanted to run and hide under the nearest rock!)

Logan's teacher told me that they had been studying snails in science and were learning all the different parts of the snail.  Logan, in all his snail knowledge, said, "Mrs. Stackley, I know how snails move" to which Mrs. Stackley responded, "Well Logan, how do snails move?"  and then..."they crawl on their peteys."  WA-BAM!!!  Out of the Mouths of Babes Part Doux!

Owie

Logan's broken nose in September 2010.  I still cringe and get teary-eyed when I think of this.


Tuesday, April 5, 2011

By Gosh, I Think He's Got It!

Well, after only seven months (humor me here), I think little man finally figured it out...he LOVES school.  If you will recall (those of you who know us KNOW the drama all too well), at the beginning of the school year Logan would NOT go into his classroom without clinging to me, crying, screaming, and running after me.  Special accomodations were made for Logan to be taken to the "bus stop" line on the other side of the school where I would drop him off and walk him to the bus line and his special "bus stop teacher" would be waiting for him.  She would hold on to little man and soothe him while I walked away and headed home.  This routine, too, took some time BUT...

After seven long months he's got it!!! 

Today, when I started to walk Logan across the crosswalk, he let go of my hand, waved a casual "hey" to Mr. O and took off at a sprinter's pace to the bus line.  No kisses, no hugs, no "bye mama."  He simply ran off and never looked back. 

I am so very proud of my little man.  At the same time, however, my heart cringes just a bit knowing that this is only the beginning of things to come. 

Friday, April 1, 2011

Child Abuse Prevention Month


April is National Child Abuse Prevention Month...a subject VERY close to my heart.  All who know me, and know me well, know that children are my passion - their health, safety and welfare above all else.  To break the spirit and soul of an innocent child is something that we must not tolerate.  We must not remain silent.  We must take a stand and let our voices be heard for those who, through no circumstance of their own, do not have a voice.

There are many organizations out there that help abused and neglected children each and every day.  My dream, my hope? - to see these organizations close their doors.  Why?  Because their services will no longer be needed.  Child abuse and neglect will have been erradicated.  In a perfect world!

Unforunately, this world is FAR from perfect.  So, until we get closer to the erradication of child abuse, these organizations are much needed.  The organization closest to my heart is CASA - Court Appointed Special Advocates.  As a volunteer CASA for two years I was able to see first-hand just what this amazing non-profit organzation does to help those who need them most.  It was a privilege and an honor to be a voice for the children and to know, through one little smile, one tiny touch, one whispered thank you, that I was making a difference. 

There is so much all of us can do to raise awareness of child abuse and neglect.  It is our responsibility to do that.  Don't go quietly if you see a child being hurt...SAY SOMETHING, DO SOMETHING!  Let that child know that someone DOES care!

Please take a moment to visit your local CASA organization or National CASA at:



I will leave you with some parting images and words from "The Child Abuse Survivor Monument"


Hatred

Who’s to pay at the end of the day
For the cruelty and pain
That obliterated all sunshine or rain?

Unforgiveness, the judgement, children’s innocent illusion
The apparent unreality and impossible resolution.

Who’s to pay?

Who’s to pay at the end of the day
For the bitterness and sadness
The overwhelming madness?


Healing the Wounds

People that called me their family
Stabbed my life with a knife
and in the end they chose to twist it
Instead of choosing to help heal my wounds.

Now I have a new life and people that I call family
I now know how it feels to be
truly and unconditionally loved.
It is real! It is genuine!


Dear God

Please help the children
of this world;

They are hurt and hurting
and are crushed beneath the weight
of our insanity.

Please bless the children
and awaken us
before it is too late.

AMEN


Thursday, March 31, 2011

Gee Dub

Logan's President's Day Project ~ George Washington in papier mache.

The resemblence is so there!

Vintage Love

I just can't hold back any longer.  I MUST share...


Erin Edwards and her creative team make incredibly beautiful treasures from
necklaces, rings and bracelets to key chains and keepsakes.  Their creations are truly unique and each one is a keepsake in itself.

And...(the best part) - when you purchase a one-of-a-kind creation from TVP, not only are you giving something amazing to yourself, you're also giving to those who just might not have as many blessings to count as you. 

why we do what we do

The Vintage Pearl works closely with several non profit organizations, Christian Ministries and orphanages. We have a heart for people in need, and the success of the company allows us to give. We have several pieces for a cause where monies are donated for each sale, but we also give in other areas (missions, church needs, etc.) as we feel led.

When you buy one of our pieces you are blessing someone is need!

A few places we have donated to:

Stop Child Trafficking Now
Tulsa Dream Center
Orphan Shield
The Mercy House
Inspire International Ministries
Sooo...if you love vintage-inspired, hand-stamped, gorgeous jewelry and helping others, you MUST check out The Vintage Pearl.  (Come on - you know you want to!)


Wednesday, March 30, 2011

The Magic Is In The Hole

Once Logan and I have returned to Washington, exploring new adventures is our plan.  We are going to take advantage of all the wonderful things and amazing places the Pacific Northwest has to offer. 

First stop...

Can't wait to lose myself in all the yumminess.  There are only a few things that Colorado just doesn't have to offer us Pacific Northwesterners...doughnuts is one of them. 

While going through security at Portland International on my way back to Denver, I met two fellow flyers who were on their way home after vacationing in Oregon.  In their arms they carried two big, pink Voo Doo Doughnut boxes. 

I must admit that every time I hear anything about Voo Doo Doughnuts, I laugh...I laugh because my little muffinhead, sweet and innocent as he is, believes that it is called "Doo Doo Doughnuts." 

Tuesday, March 29, 2011

Potholes of Life

It is said that the trials and tribulations of life are what make us strong, make us who we are.  Well then... start addressing me as Hercules please!

The road we choose to travel is there to teach us a lesson of some sort or another.  Well, I don't recall choosing the road littered with pot-holes.  That is the road, however, I have travelled.  Why didn't I just turn back?  Take a detour?  Turn my hazards on and wait for someone to rescue me?  I don't have answers to those questions.  I just continue to hold on to hope that I am nearing the end of this bumpy road. 

I know I must be getting close - I can feel the anticipation of relief.  I have persevered and triumphed over this God-forsaken fork in the road. 

My journey was not in vain...it was for a power much higher than myself.  Something so much bigger than I am.  A force so strong that I knew taking the easy way out was not an option. 

I have learned much about myself along this little trip...I am a fighter, I am determined, I am prideful.  I have learned to give when necessary to benefit others.  And I have learned to stand my ground when giving for others means sacrificing my soul. 

I will, in due time, give thanks to this bumpy road littered with pot holes.  For now, however, I will just sit back and enjoy the scenery a bit, waiting for the smooth black asphalt at the end of the road.

Monday, March 28, 2011

Popcorn Tree

Strange day today was.  It was back to school for Logan after a week off for spring break.  And of all things...we awoke to snow.  I bundled Logan up in his snow boots, heavy winter coat, and gloves.  In true Colorado fashion, however, when I picked him up from school only three hours later, the skies were blue, the sun was shining, and any hint of snow was a distant memory. 

Logan stripped himself of his winter attire and headed outside to plant "popcorn trees" in the warm sunshine.  After only 30 minutes, he was headed into the house where he changed into his swim trunks (and ONLY swim trunks) and headed back outside to "clean" the back patio.

A couple hours later, Logan was back into his sweats, t-shirt, and a hoody (and his newly acquired soccer shin guards) and we were outside playing soccer...while tiny little snowflakes fell from the sky!

It IS true what they say here - "If you don't like the weather, just wait ten minutes!"
Credits: Scrapkit - "Sleepover" by Julia @ Everyday Mom Ideas
Scrapkit - "Eco Friend" @ Sweet Shoppe Designs

Sunday, March 27, 2011

Denver Makes the World a Better Place

Thank you, Denver, for bringing me laughter and smiles when they were needed.  You are truly deserving of your very own Facebook page!






*UPDATE* 

My brush with fame!  A comment from Denver herself...


Denver Our Guilty Dog sends greetings to Tia in beautiful Denver, CO! Sounds like you're havin' fun -- ROCK ON, girl! xoxo

A Stitch in Time

Just have to give a BIG shout out to my friend Dawn's gorgeous new site (and talent)...
She creates G-O-R-G-E-O-U-S crocheted hats, headbands, diaper covers, and slippers for infants, toddlers, and children.





These are only a small sample of her work. You can see more of her talent by visiting

her website at:  http://www.wix.com/4squaredshop/4-squared

her Etsy shop at:  http://www.etsy.com/shop/4SquaredCrochetShop

or her Facebook page at:  http://www.facebook.com/4SquaredCrochetShop

Know someone having a baby soon...just had a baby...or has a little one (or not so little)? These make the perfect gift for any occasion or simply just because. Visit Dawn at one of the links above and browse through her catalogue and photos. You will be glad you did!

Friday, March 25, 2011

Reflecting

Each time my little man is away from me, I sit for hours glued to my computer screen looking at old photos and videos. And each time, I feel that old tug of what was. The old cliche "they grow up so fast" really doesn't even BEGIN to describe just how fast they DO grow up...and, eventually, away.

For now, I will hold tight to my baby's hand and help him grow and discover his world. And although some day he will expect me to let go of that hand, with hesitation I will. But...I will forever hold on to his heart!